Our Story On Marriage
Men are bad at marriage. There, we said it. We get our hot wives and then we get comfortable and lazy. Romance doesn’t go as well or come as easily any more – what with the job, kids, dog, house and all. And over beers with our buddies we try to figure out how to be clever and opine that if someone just wrote the “Man’s Guide to Marriage” book that told us what to do and how to do it we’d read it. And we’d follow instructions. But alas, we order another beer and go back to being sorry at marriage and clueless about how to solve the enigma that is our wife.
At Say Do Give we’ve sat at that table and had that conversation and at some point came to the ridiculously simple conclusion that maybe we should just ask some women what we should do. After all, we’ve all been forced to watch an episode (or season) or 2 of The Bachelor and we’ve seen what happens when a conference room full of women plans the romance for a hapless meathead hunk. And we’ve followed the stories of the train wrecks those relationships turn in to when the couples go out in to the real world and the guys is on his own.
So we recruited a group of women and asked them to give us some things we could SAY, DO and GIVE to our wives to make them feel loved. We also asked those women to look at all of the ideas we collected and vote the very best ideas to the top – and then we took the highest rated ideas and put them here to help out our fellow man. Yep, we crowdsourced romance!
MEN: We suggest you SAY, DO or GIVE once a week, and we make it easy for you to remember by sending out emails (subscribe here) with simple ideas you can execute to let your wife know she’s top of mind and you still love her.
WOMEN: We need more ideas and more help voting the best ideas to the top. Would you join our ladies-only email list so we can get your input? Seriously, you’d be doing us a HUGE solid.
Thanks for visiting and for spreading the word about this little social experiment. We think we’re on to something, and we think we’re gonna save some marriages – including our own – which is why we started this in the first place.